So I was reading this article the other day from Marie Claire. It talks about how porn has affected real life sex, and I think there’s a good amount of truth in it. In an age where people go to the internet to find love, it’s no surprise that even sex has been affected by the digital age.
The author mentions that porn was once a series of still images that left the actual acts up to the imagination of the viewer. Now people are just bombarded by sex everywhere they look, effectively robbing people of creativity in the bedroom.
What I find more disturbing is that kids can now access porn on the internet. And without anyone to tell them otherwise, they imagine that this is how things should be, putting unnecessary pressure on them when they become sexually active. I challenge anyone to give me an example of a magical “I had sex for the first time” moment. From what I remember, my first time was just strange, awkward and probably better that it remains hazy. In a time when you’re already trying to figure out what’s going on with your body, crazy porn sex is not something you should be worrying about. And once these kids grow up, society doesn’t exactly do anything to persuade them away from what they see online.
So what’s the solution? Porn obviously isn’t going anywhere, if anything getting bigger. I guess as with anything, education and full disclosure is really the only answer. Being aware that what you see on the screen is something only a tiny percent of the population (porn stars) experience is really the first step. Then a bit of communication and creativity and we’ll be on our way.